Marriage counseling and flower planting are similar in many ways. They may also share the same set of messages and be delivered with an eye towards transforming a marriage and its dynamics. Marriage counseling and flower planting are often thought of as two things that happen together but they are actually different. Readily accepted in both homes, this is a common misconception.
Flower Planting: The act of planting flowers in the lawn, on the porch or in the garden offers a beautiful sight especially at night. But the act itself has no academic goals. Counseling services do not require the planting of flowers to achieve these ends. Counseling and marriage services do, however, offer resources for the cultivation of relationships that will hopefully become enduring and meaningful. Specifically, these resources are focused towards providing a foundation upon which such relationships may be built.
It is common for flower lovers to engage in activities and acts that help improve the relationship between the couple. Such actions and activities are frequently in service of the development of a deeper commitment. And, at the core of every successful marriage relationship is a deep commitment to “put marriage first”. This includes the critical need to nurture the marriage through consistent engagement of spouses’ love towards each other.
When counseling services do promote flower planting among their participants, they do not do so because they believe this will aid in the development of a meaningful and enduring marriage. Rather, these marriage-based counseling services promote this activity out of a concern for the well-being of the individuals who participate in such activities. Specifically, they are concerned about how such actions will impact the psychological well-being of those individuals. Specifically, in this case, these professionals are concerned with how flower planting will affect and serve as a catalyst towards the cultivation of commitment, and happiness within a couple. Specifically, and importantly, they are concerned with how such actions will help promote greater emotional well-being.
To be sure, it is important to remember that the relationship between a counselor and his or her client is a two way partnership. The counselor’s role is indeed as much about promoting greater emotional well-being in his or her client as it is about counseling and imparting sound marriage advice. But, in this case, the counselor’s concern is not with “putting marriage first”. Instead, the concern is more with the individual’s potential ability to choose healthy blossoms rather than to choose unhealthy flower plants. And, as such, the professional who is concerned with the individual’s potential to choose healthy flowers will likely encourage his or her client to consider flower planting as an option.
If you are interested in learning more about how marriage counseling services can assist you in achieving the goal of having a more meaningful and rewarding marriage, contact a marriage counselor today. You may be pleasantly surprised at how quickly you will be able to grow your relationship and take your relationship to new levels of emotional satisfaction and meaningfulness. Just remember to keep in mind that the Counseling-Flower-Mound Approach is a powerful strategy for helping to ensure that you achieve this. But, make sure that you do not place this as your only focus. In fact, you should also work to make your marriage counseling services a part of the overall effort that you need to make your marriage a happier and healthier marriage. With some careful planning and creative ideas, you can make this happen!