My spouse doesn’t love me anymore – this thought alone is devastating. But, it’s not the end of the world. I know there have been situations when a marriage seemed to be taking the route towards divorce but now things are different. We are still committed to one another and this is what matters most. But, it’s a sad reality that even if you want your relationship to be better than ever – things don’t always work out like they should. In order for you to rebuild your love with your spouse, you need to re-evaluate yourself.
The first thing to do is sit down and figure out what went wrong. Was the love as strong as it once was? And what have you done to turn the situation around? For example – my spouse doesn’t love me anymore because I’m too involved with work or I’m simply too much of a ‘one’ – that my spouse finds unappealing. Or it’s the other way around – I’m too available around him/her. I can’t win here.
The important thing is to admit to yourself that maybe you aren’t as close as you once were. But then you have to figure out how you’re going to change those aspects to make your spouse to fall back in love with you again. You have to take action now before it’s too late.
It’s a shame that we often make the mistake of blaming our spouses for our difficulties. However, that doesn’t help us to get on top of the situation. If you want to fix your marriage, you have to take responsibility for your part in it. Now, that’s not to say that you are to blame for every problem in the marriage, because everyone has an individual side to them that is unique.
If, for some reason, you have made it clear to your spouse that you don’t love him or her anymore, it’s time to make a hard decision. Don’t put up with this kind of pressure from him/her. It will only get worse if you continue to ignore his/her actions.
Now is the best time to do something about your marriage. It’s a very easy way to do that – by asking your spouse to explain themselves. It’s a good idea to do this in a calm and loving manner. Simply tell them that you have noticed a change in how you feel about them, or what you do when you are around them.
Don’t be critical of them – but rather, be interested in what they have to say. Look into their eyes when you do this. Pay attention to what they are saying. Is there anything that you notice that is different from what you are used to?
– If your spouse doesn’t love you anymore, don’t ever assume that he/she won’t change. The only thing you can count on is your own instincts to pull back and protect yourself from being hurt again. This is something that you must do. If your spouse has moved on and is dating someone else, be willing to move on also. You need to do this to ensure the longevity and health of your marriage.
– If you are looking for reasons why your spouse doesn’t love you anymore, look no further than the change in your marriage. It could be that you have lost the appreciation of your spouse. There are many things that can happen that cause a person to lose his/her respect for another. The bottom line is that your marriage must be worth having if your spouse is going to stay with it. Otherwise, it won’t matter how much you love him/her.
– There may be problems in the marriage that can’t be fixed. If you see these problems, don’t point the finger of blame at your spouse. You are the one that brought this situation into being. Start working out the issues together.
The bottom line is that there are many reasons why your spouse doesn’t love you anymore. You must find out what is causing this and try to work it out. If you are married, try to work it out together and save your marriage. Don’t take the route of divorce by yourself as this will only make things worse. Always seek professional help and get your problems resolved.