Premarital counseling and relationship coaching help couples develop skills and habits necessary for successful and healthy marital relationships. The counseling process helps couples learn to identify and overcome obstacles to marital satisfaction and promotes open communication. Relationship coaching also teaches couples how to identify their unique styles, strengths, weaknesses, etc., and how these differences can be used to enhance and strengthen their marriages. Couples are taught effective communication skills such as listening, taking feedback from the other person, being compassionate, setting goals and keeping appointments, making time for each other, prioritizing tasks and lives, expressing feelings and needs, developing positive thoughts and feelings, accepting and resolving conflicts, creating an environment of safety and trust, maintaining healthy boundaries, and eliminating limiting beliefs, expectations, behaviors, practices, routines, and routines.
Premarital counseling and relationship coaching also teach couples how to discuss and manage important aspects of their lives. This may include finances, children, career, housing arrangements, physical health and/or physical illness, travel plans and schedules, including school scheduling, pet ownership and care, insurance coverage, time management and priorities, romantic relationships and dating opportunities, travel plans, children’s activities, food choices, and other important aspects of their lives. Couples are encouraged to discuss all of these issues in a non-judgmental, non-inflammatory, non-confusing, non-harassing way. The goal is to reduce conflict so that both partners feel comfortable and know that their significant other is listening and providing genuine concern for them.
Couples who have conducted premarital counseling and relationship coaching find that they have a stronger foundation for the future, a deeper sense of trust and security, and more effective ways to manage their daily stresses and responsibilities. The couples who have had the benefit of the training usually end up with better balanced personal lives. They are more satisfied with the marriage than those who did not undergo the training, and they generally have a clear idea about what they want for the big day.
One of the most compelling reasons for premarital counseling is that it can help couples learn how to live together in harmony, and it teaches them how to keep the love of each other alive after the wedding. It is well documented that many marriages end in divorce because one or both partners were unable to remain a happy, healthy and mutually faithful marriage. In a healthy union, both partners can adapt to the lifestyle and needs of each other. Constant communication helps avoid resentment, and the knowledge that you are learning how to work together and live as a team provides a foundation for a stronger union. Premarital counseling helps couples develop a plan to achieve these goals and to achieve them within a healthy marriage.
The benefits of premarital counseling go beyond saving a failing marriage. Many of the most important issues affecting couples come to light through the course of counseling. Sometimes the underlying cause of conflict is the simple inability of either or both partners to communicate effectively. In other cases, couples may be fighting over completely unrelated and unimportant issues.
Family therapists who specialize in premarital counseling often provide individual and group counseling. This often involves couples in separate rooms with their family therapist, working through problems one-on-one. In many cases, family therapists also provide individual psychotherapy sessions to address specific problems. They also encourage marital counseling between married couples.