When I first heard of The Marriage Counsellor I thought that it was going to be like every other “self help” book I’d ever seen. The problem with this particular marriage counseling reading was that it didn’t have much content that would benefit me personally. I was mostly interested in learning how The Marriage Counsellor could help others I knew to be having problems in their relationships. So I started to read the book and soon realized that it wasn’t all that different than all the other books on the market. It just so happened that the one thing I noticed about The Marriage Counsellor was its format-it was way too long!
As I neared the end of the book, I realized that I needed a fast and effective way to learn what The Marriage Counselor had to offer me. So I purchased a few other books that were more applicable to my personal situation and started to read them again. What I discovered about the last few books that had been helpful to me-the ones about growing up, becoming independent, growing up spiritually, and being committed to your marriage-was that they all focused on one thing. They all talked about overcoming one obstacle or another to make you a stronger person.
And that one thing was “overcoming” marriage problems. But it didn’t seem like any of them were really addressing the core problem of why marriages fail. All they were doing was talking about how to better fix the problems they faced before the marriage or the problems that my husband and I are currently facing. And as far as I could tell from the reading, none of them ever mentioned God in any form or way. At least that’s the way I interpreted their information.
So when I started to read The Marriage Counsellor again, I decided I wasn’t going to continue with this book. It wasn’t putting me in any sort of position to learn anything new about the “marital issues” that I was having. It also didn’t help me get a better idea about “overcoming” marriage problems (which was what I was really looking for). Because that’s just not the case.
Instead, I made up my mind and stopped listening to the material on the CD. And while I haven’t looked back since, I have heard other people talk about The Marriage Counsellor reading. And there is no way that I’m jumping to that conclusion. The real question then becomes-if that’s the best advice you can get about how much is pre marriage counseling cost, why should you even be considering it?
Why do you want to spend your time and money at all when you don’t even know if your marriage will work? Would you even know if it did if it was failing? No one can tell you that for sure until one day you wake up and find out that your dream marriage has gone up in smoke. Unless you want to go and spend countless hours researching marriage, there’s just no point-it just isn’t necessary.