The term, “Marriage Counseling Meme” was coined by American Family Counseling Association. It was first used in a speech given by Dr. Morris Adler of the University of Chicago. This man had just spoken on marriage counseling. He said that even though counseling cannot save marriages, it can help you save your marriage if both partners are willing to make love and work on it. In Adler’s view, marriage counseling is like going on an extended vacation. If both partners cooperate and respect each others feelings, they will learn how to bond properly.
In his talk, Dr. Adler also said that marriage counseling is not something like going for a holiday and expect to get a good wife. According to the definition, marriage counseling should be used to help you improve your relationships with your spouse. However, the problem is many people want marriage counseling to make love better. As such, the acronym “HCAM” stands for: Human Communication Acceptance and Responsibility; and it means that a married woman has to accept and understand that her husband needs to listen, empathize, communicate, compromise and take responsibility for his own emotions, feelings and actions.
To make the point more clear, let us take a look at the acronym again. “HCAM” may mean: Human Communication Acceptance and Responsibility; and it means a married woman must accept and understand that her husband needs to listen, empathize, communicate, compromise and take responsibility for his own emotions, feelings and actions. This is why the Mayo Clinic recommends that you first attend Christian marriage counseling if your marriage has become distress. You may then decide to attend the non-denominational Human Communication Acceptance and Responsibility class, which are taught by the Christian Marriage Coach.
Now, back to the definition of “HCAM”. According to the dictionary, “HCAM” means: “to manage or regulate” – “to act in behalf of or as an agent for others”. In other words,” HCAM ” means to be a counselor, therapist, coach in an institution of learning.” This then means that any of the persons listed above who work in a Christian marriage counseling setting are licensed to practice in that setting.
A licensed practitioner of any of the disciplines taught in the four books of the Bible (the Bible, the Institutes of Biblical Meditation, the Book of Wisdom, and the Song of Solomon) can qualify as a “HCAM”. The mere fact that they posses a “license” doesn’t mean that they have to have “specialized training” in the subject matter taught in those books. Some may choose to have specialized training in specific areas of marriage counseling, but that would not qualify them to practice in a “bane setting” such as a Mayo Clinic counseling or a Christian marriage counseling setting.
It is also important to note that being certified in marriage counseling does not necessitate that you have a degree in any of the disciplines taught in the Bible. Many accredited institutions of higher learning offer programs that qualify you to “certify” in marriage counseling, but do not offer a degree in that discipline. If you want to obtain a degree in a related field (e.g., a psychology degree), you will need to study a discipline (e.g., psychology, sociology, etc.) that is approved by the American Psychological Association. Those who are pursuing graduate work in psychology may want to pursue a Master’s Degree in marriage counseling, which may be an appropriate goal, but they should make sure that it has been approved by the Board on Marriage and Family Therapy so that they may enter into a licensing program.