Although statistics reveal that second marriage divorce rate is higher than the first marriages, no one should worry too much about second marriage failure rates. You will only enter into this marriage with a clean slate, after cleaning up from your first marriage. There are a number of factors that influence your chance of falling in love with a new partner, and even if you’re not lucky enough to fall in love with your soul mate straight away, there’s no guarantee that your new relationship will flounder as badly as your first one did. But no matter how unlikely it may seem, taking the right steps to ensure a successful second marriage is still possible, if you’re guided properly.
If you’re having trouble getting to know your partner again, don’t despair. Statistics show that the vast majority of couples who get married again don’t do so because they feel rejected or because their relationship has hit an iceberg. The vast majority of couples who get married again end up with a partner they love and who loves them back. It just happens. The first time around, things were a little different: maybe there was an argument, or maybe you or your spouse had a hard time communicating with each other. This time around, communication should be at a minimum and you both should be well on the way to making your second marriage work.
You should start your second marriage off on the right foot by renewing your commitment to your first marriage. It’s very easy to fall into the trap of focusing on what your ex did, which was to leave you for another person. You need to make sure that you are 100% committed to your first marriage and that, regardless of what happens, your former spouse doesn’t have any illusions about you. Focus on how wonderful your life was before your spouse left you – the fun times, the special occasions, the unique hobbies you shared. You need to focus on those things now and remember how wonderful they made you feel.
Children are also something to consider when getting married again. If you and your former spouse no longer have children involved in the marriage, then it may not be worth the effort of getting divorced. Of course, if you do have children involved, then you have some work to do. You both need to figure out what you are going to do in the case of divorce and whether your second marriage will have the same affect on your children as the first did. Children can be affected by divorce in a negative way, but there are ways to make their lives better after the divorce.
Another thing to consider is whether or not you and your wife can still be friends. You have to realize that you took a huge step by marrying a second time and you shouldn’t expect to instantly become best friends with your wife. As with everything else in a marriage, the closer you get, the less you can keep your friends around. You might find yourself moving towards your wife more as you get closer, but remember that your wife still has her friends, so don’t force yourself into forming a relationship with her because of this.
The final section of the test is the one that asks about all the assets that belong to you and your first wife. This section of the test is not nearly as important as the other sections of the exam. This section is used to determine what you will be able to take with you when you remarry. If you were in a first marriage and you remarried after breaking up with your wife, then you are not eligible for any of the assets that are divided in the first marriage under the provision of section 494.