Christian marriage counseling is not for everyone. Some people will find it a bit intimidating and uncomfortable. Others will immediately discover that it is not going to be a walk in the park, but it is a walk that they can definitely feel their way along. I have learned my fair share of the bumps and potholes of marriage counseling as a divorced Christian with a lot of friends who were in the same shoes.
It takes a certain kind of person to get through a Christian marriage counseling session. There are some people who will just shut down and refuse to get help. The ones who do really try and get past this part usually end up going further away from the truth. The truth is that it is not as easy as some would think it is to really get to rock bottom. It’s like when you finally reach a point in life where you have to decide to do what is right or what is wrong. This decision sometimes doesn’t come easy.
Sometimes, people push too hard and push too long. There are other times where people get too excited and lose control of themselves. These are the people who get very angry and don’t know what to do. If you fall into one of these categories, Christian counseling might not be for you. It’s very important to understand these different kinds of behavior so you can make decisions that are best for you.
The key to Christian marriage counseling is to not get impatient and to keep your head in the right place. Don’t try to solve the problem over again. It is easy to become disheartened by the lack of progress and the resistance that some people show. They seem determined to make it almost impossible for you to get help. Don’t let this type of behavior get the best of you.
Another way that some people can make it difficult for you to receive counseling is to talk about your problems without taking any responsibility for them. This puts you in a better position than those who blame others or don’t take ownership of their own actions. This is the group that usually needs the most help when it comes to getting through tough situations. It’s important to have your own mental and emotional strength when you are going in to talk with your pastor or spiritual leader.
Christian marriage counseling isn’t for everyone. You should only use it if you feel comfortable with taking the steps to save your marriage. Even if it seems like a pipe dream, don’t rule it out just because of how it sounds.