Relationships are not easy, especially when there are issues like infidelity, financial problems, or even emotional cheating. It can be very devastating for the children involved when their parents are fighting and no longer have time for each other. Even though a bad marriage is not your fault, it can be very devastating for everyone. If you feel like your relationship with your spouse has turned sour, here are some signs of what to look for that will help you figure out if it’s worth saving or if you should just end things.
Signs That Your Marriage is Not Healthy. One of the biggest reasons that marriages end in divorce is because one of the spouses decides that they don’t want to work on the relationship anymore. This happens in every marriage, but when it happens to you, there is a reason behind it. It’s not because you don’t love your partner anymore, or you are incapable of loving your spouse – in most cases it’s because you feel like you have reached a place in life where you can no longer depend on them. In a bad marriage where this has happened, every time you or your spouse think about your partner, they will think of how much you need them and you can’t live without them. The love you once felt has disappeared and you are now totally single again.
The Other Partner Leaves. Even if your spouse has been unfaithful to you, if you are still having feelings for him or her, or even if they still love you, this doesn’t mean that they are still attached to you in any way. When this happens, and it can happen even if it’s only by choice, the other partner simply decides that it’s time to move on. This can be a difficult situation to deal with, but it does not mean that the marriage has to end.
You Decide To Divorce. This is usually one of the hardest things to do in life – deciding to get a divorce. After all, it’s not only you who is affected by the bad marriage, it’s also your partner and their family. They are the ones who’ve made the plans for your future, and it is you who will have to live the rest of your life with the person you had at the beginning of your relationship. Of course you want to end the relationship, but do not forget that it is still your partner, and they have to accept it or you are going to go through a very long and hard process. Sooner or later they will come around – but it won’t be a happy ending.
The Spouse Says They Love You Again. Usually after the “spouse says they love you again” part, your partner might start thinking about getting back together with you again. As long as they still love you, then chances are that things can work between the two of you. Just make sure that the time apart is not more than a month or two – this will prevent any nasty surprises when you get back into a bad marriage.
Let Go of the Control. Once you decide to let go of your control over the situation and think for yourself, there will be a lot less stress and pressure on you and your partner. This is great because sometimes in a bad marriage, people begin to put too much stress on the relationship, which in turn causes problems for everyone involved. In order to really let go of the control, take this opportunity to get honest with your partner and find out what really is best for both of you. Let them know that you are willing to make the changes that are necessary to get your marriage back on track, and that you believe your partner deserves a second chance as well. You will probably feel like your partner was really willing to try and save the relationship – even if they weren’t – and will open themselves up to you again.